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Learning to Forgive

Our individual journey in life is as unique to one another as our finger prints are. Therefore how is it possible for us to ever judge one another without having benefit of: the experiences, the love, the trials, the challenges, the triumphs, the fears and even the traumas that have shaped the reality that they live with.

We can’t.  And we must not.

I love this quote from the Bible.  Matthew 7:1-5

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”Quote from Wayne Warrington

 

 

And then of course we have John 8:7

“And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.”

I truly believe that each of us has our own reality.  And, it continues to change as we follow our path in life.  And as such these words came to mind.

 

“You learn to forgive others when you realize their reality can be different than your own.”  ~Wayne Warrington

The World Sits in Judgment

Yet we do not need to join the world in this process.

How often as we are in the midst of a conversation do we hear someone passing judgment upon another. Criticizing the way they dress. Their choice of hairstyles or even the type of work they do.  This seems impossible at times to escape. Judgment after judgment being rendered from individuals that they themselves are flawed to the core.

Least we forget we are fallen. We are imperfect. We are human.

I too have found myself with thoughts which certainly fall short of that which God has directed us to avoid at all cost.  And what is the cost of our thoughts, our comments, our condemnation of others?  Sad but true, the cost is more than anyone of us would ever wish to bear.  Loving the One

As I grew in my faith, as my state of enlightenment developed, I discovered amazing grace and peace as I found myself looking upon others, not by the clothes they wear, the tattoos on  their body, but more as I gazed upon their spirit and the light that shines from their hearts and minds as they pray, as they praise and lift up others around them.

My post today is prompted by the state of affairs we find ourselves embroiled in across the country and even around the world.  There is hatred the in hearts of so many, there is a disconnect within our communities, and there is a loss of compassion for those living without the necessities required to simply exist.

With the recent destruction of our cities and towns through the hurricanes these past few weeks, we have witnessed such amazing compassion and concern for the safety and lives of hundreds of thousands of Americans. With the attack on lives and bombings overseas we are seeing outreach once more for those whose lives have been disrupted by the violence that has overtaken those communities.   Why?   Why does it take such devastation, such loss of life, for us to show compassion. We are created with the emotion of love first and foremost.  How we end up allowing fear, anger, jealousy, and violence to become the controlling elements of our lives is beyond imagination.

As I created the graphics with the quote shown above my heart was filled with love for the amazing diversity we share here in America as well as for the beauty that can only be seen at times when you view life through the heavenly realm and not simply through our human condition.  My friends, take a moment to pray for our country, for our communities, and for the world to be filled with the peace that only comes from God and that is witnessed through each of us, one person at a time, one act of faith and of compassion at a time.   May God bless you for your thoughts of compassion for others and for the love you share those around you no matter what their race, color, religion or political affiliation.  We are all ONE!  One with God and one with one another.

A New Year, A New Reason to Forgive!

So many resolutions to be made, so many pounds to lose. Yet what we truly lose each year is time. Time where we could have shared that cup of coffee, shared a laugh or a hug. And most important, shared the love of someone that we may have stepped away from for a reason that seems even silly or unimportant today. When is it time to forgive?

Let’s make 2013 a year to reconnect with those we miss in our life, or those that miss us.  Have we been unfair holding onto a hurt that certainly no longer makes sense. Should we at least put those things behind us and move forward in life with love and forgiveness being a real part of who and what we are?

Several years ago I came to understand what unconditional love means in my life.  I was able to forgive and move forward and it has been such an amazing and peaceful experience for certain.  However, just about the time I was able to fully understand and appreciate the wonders of a forgiving heart, I became victim to another who has yet to learn these same lessons.  I miss this person in my life and there is not a day that goes by that I do not feel the loss.  So for me, not only will 2013 be a year filled with forgiveness for others, and asking of their forgiveness to me, it will be a year of reconnecting with those whose love I have shared and missed this past year.

Wishing you a wonderful year ahead, a year filled with love and forgiveness where it is needed most.    Matthew 6:14-15

To Love is to Forgive!

To forgive is to experience life the way it is meant to be! Peaceful and happy!

It is interesting how as a society we are expected to forgive others in the course of their rehabilitation for the crimes they have committed.  Yet, we often fall short in forgiving of mistakes made by those we call close friends.

It is also amazing when we can grasp the full extent of God’s love for His children and how He has forgiven us of our sins: past, present and future. Yet what He asks of us in return, to forgive those that have sinned against us, we again fall short even when the sin is by someone we love.

The simplest expression of love, true love, is our demonstration of the act of forgiveness.

I believe if we were to simply step back and reverse the roles we are in, we would find the process of forgiveness a bit easier.   I also believe that by taking a moment to ask ourselves “what else can this mean and not including ourselves in the process” we can find forgiveness to be a beautiful gift that can be shared with others. Such as when the husband comes home from a hard day at work and his wife immediately confronts him as to an errand he forgot to do that day after being reminded several times. It certainly would be easy for the man to place his day, his emotions and stress before asking himself why is my wife so upset over the errand.

The best example I can give relates to a recent situation with someone close to me had their feelings hurt by something they “thought” I did.  Their immediate reaction was to communicate in writing to me how hurt they were, adding a condemning statement about my character and then the closing with …how they never wanted to speak to me again.

As a man of faith, I take my relationships with others… family and friends… very much to heart. And so this person’s communication was devastating to me.  And being only human, the condemning portion added the emotional element of defensiveness as I read the message over and over again.

Before I replied or tried to reach out to this person, I took a MOMENT to ask myself “What else could this mean?”  I then separated myself from the entire communication and looked at what was happening in their life at this time and all of sudden the anger in their letter, the disappointment and condemnation of me for the actions they thought I had done melted away and my heart became heavy for the burden and pain I knew that this person was going through.

At this point I was able to reach out to them with my love and sincere feelings of helping them through their pain and simply ignoring the content of their communication.  As we talked, they quickly realized their assumption of my wrong doing was in error and that they themselves had done something totally out of character as it related to the love and respect we had for one another.   They asked me for forgiveness. I replied it was not necessary to ask for that which was not needed in the first place, and added that through the love we share forgiveness is simply part of the relationship.

When we love, we forgive.  When we place ourselves first, above those we love, we will find forgiveness a more difficult process. When we let our emotions take control of our thoughts, when we let the actions of others dictate how we live our lives, we lose!  We lose the ability to show our true love for others. We lose our ability to show compassion for the pain others are experiencing.  We lose our state of peace and happiness. And as a Christian we lose our connection with God.  During these times when we become angry, defensive, jealous, resentful and even vindictive… these are the times when our communications and feelings of peace with our God, our inner self or spirituality, becomes weak.

When we forgive we are experiencing the highest form of love there is. And as a result we then experience an incredible state of peace and happiness.

As a follow up to my article on 11.11.11, this message seems to be very much on target. The past is the past, we must forgive all those that have hurt us in the past, forgive those that have sinned against us, thereby allowing us to move forward in life with: no baggage, no anger, nor resentment towards others… especially those we called close friends and those we shared our love with.

My comments here should certainly not be taken as an excuse to stay in an abusive relationship.  Forgiveness is necessary there to, yet continued abuse by someone in your life, whether physical or emotional, should never be considered an acceptable way to live. The forgiveness in these situations is truly a healing form of forgiveness which allows you to move on in life and be able to experience, in a positive way, loving relationships with others.

As we all know, in life there is an opposite for everything.  The opposite of light is darkness. The opposite of good is evil.  The opposite of love is hate.  In the case of forgiveness it is judgment.  When we fail to forgive we are simply placing our judgment upon another.  If you are a spiritual person, as I, you may find this scripture  of interest. Luke 6:37

If nothing else, remember this… “Abundance in your life is achieve through the ongoing process of forgiveness in your life and the existence of  love within your heart. You can not have one without the other!”  – Wayne Warrington